How Do You Know You Are Growing?

Here is a good question to consider. “How Do You Know You Are Growing?”

How is it measurable? How can you tell?

My coach Jeanine calls it “the recovery ark.” It is a really good description.

When something difficult, challenging or frustrating occurs, how long does it take before you have processed through it and reached a healthy equilibrium again?

Is it faster than it used to be?

How quickly can you reframe the obstacle, hurt, or challenge, and view it through the lens of, “this is happening FOR me not TO me?”

How quickly are you able to take FULL responsibility for 100% of what occurs in your experience?

So wounds and damage, betrayal, and even stealing or deep abuses were inflicted upon you by others and now YOU are responsible to heal it and fix it!? How is that fair? It isn’t fair. Not at all.

Yet the reality is, we only have two options:

1. Live in blame, ongoing trauma, and upset.

2. Work diligently towards healing and overcoming, taking full responsibility no matter what, and deciding to keep your peace on.

Those are the two trajectories.

The second one is your ONLY chance at true freedom. People will still hurt you and let you down. Even the ones who you thought would never betray you, yes even they can. Difficult challenges, setbacks, and obstacles will still arise. Guaranteed!

The difference is…

How do you reframe that event, and how quickly do you do so?

For example, if a close friend betrayed you ten years ago, it may take five years to let it go, or you may still feel the twinge of pain about it.

In a similar situation today, maybe you could process that much faster and also see how and why that experience was generated to teach you something. Gifts are wrapped up in many different packages. Painful lessons are gifts too. They are a different type of training.

If something was said where you ended up in a state of offense, maybe that could be a permanent hurt that you nursed.

Today perhaps it would hurt for a day or two and then you were able to make the decision to not deal with that person anymore if they offered no apology or way to reconnect, take responsibility for the whole episode, and then wish genuine love for the other and move on.

THAT is how you know you are growing. It is perfectly ok for things to have an impact and even to feel deep grief, despair, and anguish. STAYING THERE indefinitely is not ok, simply because you will rob YOURSELF of peace and joy and you can overcome. You really can! The battle is won and lost in the mind.

Say it is happening FOR me. Say that as fast as you can when things fall off the rails. Trust that each obstacle is part of your training towards a mature, whole and complete person lacking nothing. You are becoming unshakable. And as you move into that zone, look out world! Nothing is impossible from that place.

Why is a millionaire able to lose all money, become bankrupt and broke and then dig deep to restore it all and more in a mighty comeback? There are countless stories of things like that. Mindset is the answer.

MINDSET!

And honestly, it is the hardest and most challenging thing you will ever do when you choose trajectory # 2. Work diligently towards healing and overcoming, taking full responsibility no matter what, and deciding to keep your peace on.

It is also the only way to true freedom. Surrender all and break off all the limits.

Don’t be limited by the trials and tribulations that come along.

Rise, life is calling!

As for the horrible things that have happened, even this week you may have had some really tough things to handle.

Say it is happening FOR me and rise. Each time you do that, you move one step closer to being unshakable. Your recovery ark is faster and faster and you are renamed as an overcomer. No longer a victim to anything comes your way. You are the head, not the tail. Amen!

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