Not Attaching To The Outcome

The concept of being “unattached to the outcome” was one that I struggled with. BIG TIME!

There were certain things that I truly believed that unless “this” happens, nothing will be ok. Unless the outcome is “this” how could I ever be happy? And whenever I heard the phrases or concepts around being unattached to any particular outcome, I found it so hard to align with. Surely I did not have to relinquish MY desired outcome and trust the process? Surely not!

I have a family situation that to me, felt like it would be UTTERLY wrong if it did not end exactly how I believe it needs to.

How did I ever find the way forward with so much “wrong?” How can we, when so many things are unjust, unfair, need to change, or need to end a particular way? What if they are still “wrong” in our eyes?

I had to arrive at a place of full trust and surrender.

That is the answer. It is the only answer I know to be true in such situations.

We simply cannot place any trust in other people to do the right thing so we feel happy, or for external circumstances to change before we are happy. It is a trap. There is injustice all over the place. The unfairness that we experience simply cannot rule over us and our emotions though. It is way too big, too global in fact, and we will drown under the weight. This is serious stuff. Some people get hit so hard with injustice that their body breaks down and they battle a terminal disease. I agree it is positively horrendous when things are unfair.

Lets safely assume you WILL deal with some level of injustice in life though. What then? Do we want it to rule over you? Affect you negatively? Plant bitterness in you? Once you surrender it all and let it go, things will shift. Will it be one of the hardest things you ever do? It very well could be.

My dear friend Pedro has a phrase, “Be the happiest person you know.”

I can tell you right now, there is no way you can be the happiest person you know when you are attached to any outcome. “Unless “this” happens, I will not be happy.” is a snare.

We can fully surrender any situation, no matter how big or awful, and trust that the outcome will be as it should. It does not mean that we give up. It does not mean that we do not apply faith and speak and think in ways that help. It does not mean that we do not hope for the best and brightest way forward. It simply means that after we have done all, we can stand. Stand in faith, trust, and surrender. And if you have not done all…go and do all first!

Then stand.

This week I had the pleasure of seeing my dear friend Diana Rouvas perform live on one of her shows.

She arrested the hearts of millions of Australians when she won The Voice this year. The moment she won, it was incredible!

What if she didn’t win, though? What if they never even turned at the blind audition? What then?

Well, nothing would change. She would go on singing and create a new pathway forward, opening all the doors that were meant for her. This door is opened now, and she is running through it, yet I promise you, once you are clear on your path, any setback or challenge is only there to train you for your next level. If she did not win, she would still be singing! And guess what? The first time she went on The Voice, she did not win. Did she stop? No. She came back with fire and smashed unforgettable performance after unforgettable performance in this season.

Staying unattached to the outcome and proceeding on your path with passion and love is the way!

Once we are unattached to any outcome and we know and trust that LIFE is on our side, then we reduce and even eliminate suffering, and this is a very important practice that will change your life.

*** I would love for you to join me in Bali at the YOU HAVE A VOICE SUMMIT on January 8th – 13th 2020.

You will go deeper into the amazing freedom that is possible for you, and you will also begin to create new opportunities and dreams that are ready to be birthed! Once you truly find your voice, with the clarity you need to move forward, you will be unstoppable!

*** There is now ONE spot left for the amazing EXPERIENCE THE RECORDING STUDIO WORKSHOP and I hope it is you!

*** Also, don’t forget the stunning live show coming up:

Simone Waddell + Merryn Holder – For The Love of Jazz
September 14th at Foundry 616

Tickets are here: https://foundry616.com.au/ticket/14-sept-simone-waddell/